We all have experienced anger at one time or another. It is how we handle this very powerful emotion that demonstrates just how self-controlled we are. You see, anger is something that starts off small and builds. It will start off with frustration and if you just bury that frustration it begins to grow into resentment and anger, which lead to rage, fury, hatred and sometimes even violence. When we find ourselves in a situation where we become angry, the best thing to do is acknowledge that you are feeling anger, it is only once you realize that you feel this way that you can deal with it effectively.
There are many ways in which people can deal with their anger. They can talk to the person that has caused the aggravation and try to express to them what caused you to become angry, if you talk it over with them calmly they will be more responsive than if you try to approach them while you are still angry. Hopefully, once they understand how their actions made you feel, they will want to change it; however, this is not always the case. When people refuse to change then your options come down to you. You could ignore their behavior, you could choose not to associate with that person until the change is made, you could try to find a way to live with it or you could change. If you are the type of person who avoids confrontation there are still things you can do. You could write a letter to the person, you could write out your emotions in a journal, you could go for a walk, or you could punch something to get the aggression out. I would recommend if you choose to hit something you choose something soft or find a punching bag.
I have heard the words "I hate" more times than I can count in the last few years. This reveals to me that people are having a harder time dealing with their anger in a positive way. It is when we bottle up our anger and bury it deep inside that it can grow. When anger grows, we become filled with hatred and bitterness. We have a difficult time finding any joy in our lives, which causes us to become even angrier.
God has shared with us some positive ways of dealing with anger as well. Luke 6:27-28, 35 says to love those who hate us, bless those who curse us and pray for those who insult us. Romans 12:18-21 says not to take revenge ourselves, but to let God take care of it; this verse also says we should feed our enemies if they are hungry. Ephesians 4:26-27, 31-32 says that we should not go to bed angry, and that we should be kind to one another and forgiving of each other. Colossians 3:5-8, 12-13 says we should be sympathetic, kind, humble and patient, it also says we should put up with each other and forgive each other. 1 Peter 3:8-12 says we must live in harmony, be sympathetic, love, have compassion, and be humble; this verse also says not to ridicule others, but to bless them. It goes on to say that if we want a full life we must not say evil or deceitful things, we must turn from evil and do good, and we must seek peace and pursue it. Ultimately, God's way is to be loving, kind and compassionate to others, even when they have hurt us and to forgive those who have been unkind to us. God's way is not easy, but it is the best way to have a full life. God's way turns the "I hate" into "I love".
There are many ways in which people can deal with their anger. They can talk to the person that has caused the aggravation and try to express to them what caused you to become angry, if you talk it over with them calmly they will be more responsive than if you try to approach them while you are still angry. Hopefully, once they understand how their actions made you feel, they will want to change it; however, this is not always the case. When people refuse to change then your options come down to you. You could ignore their behavior, you could choose not to associate with that person until the change is made, you could try to find a way to live with it or you could change. If you are the type of person who avoids confrontation there are still things you can do. You could write a letter to the person, you could write out your emotions in a journal, you could go for a walk, or you could punch something to get the aggression out. I would recommend if you choose to hit something you choose something soft or find a punching bag.
I have heard the words "I hate" more times than I can count in the last few years. This reveals to me that people are having a harder time dealing with their anger in a positive way. It is when we bottle up our anger and bury it deep inside that it can grow. When anger grows, we become filled with hatred and bitterness. We have a difficult time finding any joy in our lives, which causes us to become even angrier.
God has shared with us some positive ways of dealing with anger as well. Luke 6:27-28, 35 says to love those who hate us, bless those who curse us and pray for those who insult us. Romans 12:18-21 says not to take revenge ourselves, but to let God take care of it; this verse also says we should feed our enemies if they are hungry. Ephesians 4:26-27, 31-32 says that we should not go to bed angry, and that we should be kind to one another and forgiving of each other. Colossians 3:5-8, 12-13 says we should be sympathetic, kind, humble and patient, it also says we should put up with each other and forgive each other. 1 Peter 3:8-12 says we must live in harmony, be sympathetic, love, have compassion, and be humble; this verse also says not to ridicule others, but to bless them. It goes on to say that if we want a full life we must not say evil or deceitful things, we must turn from evil and do good, and we must seek peace and pursue it. Ultimately, God's way is to be loving, kind and compassionate to others, even when they have hurt us and to forgive those who have been unkind to us. God's way is not easy, but it is the best way to have a full life. God's way turns the "I hate" into "I love".
