Issue: As a Christian I feel like I always have to have my act together and never have any problems, but when I hide my problems from others they know I am not being "real" with them. How can I be "real" and still be a Christian?
Insight: This is a question that plagues many Christians so do not feel alone in this. We as Christians often get this preconceived notion that we need to be perfect. God actually calls us to be holy (1 Peter 1:15-16; Leviticus 11:44-45) which doesn't mean perfect, it means set apart. God wants us to live lives that are different than those around us. He knows we are prone to sin. He knows what we are capable of. I believe that it is us who expect perfection from others.
Issue: I find it really hard to trust God. I have trust issues with people I can see let alone God who I can't.
Insight: Believe it or not this is an age old questions. In the days of Moses (read Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy in the Old Testament for the complete story of Moses) the Israelites also had a hard time trusting a God they could not see, even with the miracles that God had performed for them. So first of all you are not the only one in that boat. I too have had my trust issues with God.
Issue: I am a very independent person and I find it really hard to rely on God the way the Bible shows us too. How can I change that?
Insight: I continually struggle with that. I am also an independent person and I find that many times I try to do things on my own without God's help. The result is not pleasant. I am usually worn out, defeated, and worst of all I end up feeling guilty about not asking God to help me right from the start.
Issue: My best friend started dating the person I like, when my friend knew I liked this person. I don't want to tell my friend anything anymore and I feel betrayed. I don't think I will ever be able to trust my friend again.
Insight: My question to you is have you told your friend how you feel since this happened? Your best friend may think you stopped liking that person, or your friend might have thought it was alright if that person liked your friend but didn't like you in that way. You need to find out why your friend did it before you can decide if your friend has broken your trust or not.
Issue: I'm scared my life isn't going to work out right. It seems like once something great happens, it gets worse like a week later.
Insight: I know everything is going to be ok! The only thing is sometimes we make plans for ourselves and when they don't work out we think our lives are falling apart. God may just have a better plan so sometimes he has to let us fail in our plans for us to follow his plan for us. I'm sorry things are not going so good, but as long as you keep being you and trust God, you will always find your way back to the right path. The only way to fail at life is to give up.
I strive to help others by being a safe place for others to ask questions and pose issues they face.