Issue: I can't stop swearing no matter how hard I try, I just can't stop. I know it offends people and I want to stop, I just can't.
Insight: That is just it! As long as you believe you can't and you keep telling yourself you can't and others around you also say you can't then you probably won't be bale to. Our words are very powerful and what we say to ourselves or about ourselves has a great impact on us. The best thing for you to do is surround yourself with people who believe you can and tell you that they believe you can. Once you hear it enough you may believe it enough to at least try to stop, and maybe even start telling yourself you can. Our self talk can either build up or destroy so choose your words carefully.
We also tend to pick up language from those we surround ourselves with. If there is a lot of swearing in your environment, see if you can change it, so that you are not surrounded by swearing.
Issue: A family member has an addiction problem. They have been in recovery but have never had complete success. This family member lies in order to not be detected and is on the path to destruction, what should I do?
Insight: Addiction is always a difficult thing for a family to face. The problem with addiction is that recovery is a lifetime process. It is not instantaneous. A person in recovery cannot expect to be free from all temptation. It is how you handle these moments of temptation that reveals how well you are doing on the path to recovery.
As for what you can do; you can pray for them, you can encourage them to go back into recovery, you can place boundaries on their relationship with you and your family, and you can share your concerns with them. If these prove unsuccessful in changing the situation, I encourage you to seek counseling with a counselor who is familiar with addiction. It may help to have a fresh perspective and they may be able to give you new insight into the situation and give you some strategies to deal with your particular situation.
Issue: A friend is making some bad life choices. I really want to be there for them, but at the same time I want to safe guard myself from their toxic lifestyle.
Insight: The best thing to do is to pray for that person and continue to be there for them. Show them that you love them no matter what. Advise them when they allow you to. The best thing to do for yourself is to stay grounded in your faith and spend time with God daily. This way you can not only help them through your words but also through your example. If you feel after all of this that their toxic lifestyle is still seeping into your life it may be time to distance yourself. You can still be there for them, just maybe not as involved as you are now.
I strive to help others by being a safe place for others to ask questions and pose issues they face.