Insight: It is really difficult when people move away. We make strong connections with people and then they are gone. One thing to think about is that just because someone has moved away does not mean they have stopped being your friend. With the technology that we have today, you should be able to keep in contact with your friends even if you do not get the chance to see them as often.
Another thing to consider, is if you are involved in events with other people, like soccer, dance, church, etc. then you could make some new friends in these groups, you might be surprised at how many great friendships you can make when you have something in common.
Also, if you find that people are not friendly towards you, then you need to consider why they are not. Could it be that you are scared to make new friends because they might leave too? If you are too scared to become friends with new people because other people have moved away, then you may never get to experience true friendship again. What an unfortunate circumstance that would be. I have had friends that have moved away and sometimes we lose touch and others are still close. Do not be scared, not everyone moves away.
Could you be thinking that your lack of friends is some fault in yourself? This is really negative thinking. People respond to the way you present yourself. If you do not think well of yourself others will pick up on that and tend to lean in that direction. If you have confidence and believe in yourself, you will find that others will have an easier time believing in you as well.
Could you be so focused on your situation, you may be missing opportunities to reach out to people around you? Sometimes in life we focus so much on our problems we miss the things that are happening around us each day. Watch for opportunities to help people. Kindness goes a long way in making new friends. How do you respond when people are nice to you? I know that when people are kind to me I want to get to know them better.
The best thing for you to remember is be yourself. People tend to draw away from people who seem phony. Be open to new friendships, you never know your new best friend may be just around the next corner.
Insight: Fear is something we all have had. There are two kinds of fear. There is a good kind of fear that keeps you from talking to strangers and a bad kind of fear that keeps you from falling asleep (if you are scared of nightmares). To deal with the bad kind of fear, try spending more time with people who make you feel safe, like your mom or dad. You could also study about what you are afraid of and see if there is a real reason to be afraid. For example, if you were afraid of lightning, you could study lightning and see how many times it strikes and how often is has hit a person. Also find out how to keep yourself safe when there is a lightning storm.
Another thing you can do is pray, God can calm us down and take our fear away. God says in the Bible that he will protect us. I know when I am afraid, and I ask God to help me, He does.
Issue: I'm scared my life isn't going to work out right. It seems like once something great happens, it gets worse like a week later.
Insight: I know everything is going to be ok! The only thing is sometimes we make plans for ourselves and when they don't work out we think our lives are falling apart. God may just have a better plan so sometimes he has to let us fail in our plans for us to follow his plan for us. I'm sorry things are not going so good, but as long as you keep being you and trust God, you will always find your way back to the right path. The only way to fail at life is to give up.
I strive to help others by being a safe place for others to ask questions and pose issues they face.