Issue: No one understands what I am going through, I try to explain it to them, but no one seems to understand, am I supposed to deal with this on my own?
Insight: No one should deal with their problems alone. Sometimes people may not understand what you are going through, but that doesn't mean they can't be there to listen to you and support you. Sometimes all we need is to have one person sincerely listen to what we are going through in life in order to cope. If you cannot find someone like this amongst your friends or family, seek out a counselor who will. We all need someone to listen.
Issue: I find that there are times in my life when I want nothing to do with other people and I isolate myself? What is so bad about isolation?
Insight: God created us as relational beings. He created us in His image, He is also a relational being. God is three persons, this is because God is relational. If God was one person than He would have created us to be in isolation because God created us in His image. God wants us not only to be in relationship with Him, but with our families, friends and the world around us. Do not let the enemy win and convince you that there is nothing wrong with isolation. It is in isolation when we have the greatest sense of loneliness, anxiety, fear, and depression. We need others, just the same way they need us.
Issue: I am not looking forward to Valentine's Day, since I will be facing it alone again. I find that every year I dread February more and more.
Insight: We all have people in our lives that we love. Why not focus on these people on Valentine's Day. Take a sibling or parent out to dinner. Go out to a movie with a friend. I look at Valentine's Day as a day to show how much you love the people in your life. It doesn't even have to be a material gift, just give someone a call, or a note of encouragement. Little things mean a lot more than you may realize.
Another thing you could do is spend that time focused on God's love for you and how much He loves you. Once you take the focus off of your relationship status and focus on those you love, I am sure you will find Valentine's Day more enjoyable. If you start to enjoy Valentine's Day, then next year February may be a month to look forward to instead of the month to dread.
Issue: I am a Christian but there have been a lot of time when I feel alone. I know God is supposed to always be there but then why do I feel so alone?
Insight: First of all, I want to let you know that you are truly never alone, however there are times when we push God away and don't realize that we need to invite him back.
I was angry with God myself at one time. I buried it and year after year went past and I would pray and read the Bible but I still felt like God was distant from me. One day I was talking to someone and I expressed that I was angry with God. I traced it back to the source and asked for God to forgive me for pushing Him away and then invited Him back and I no longer have that feeling of distance. God is a gentleman who will not force Himself into your life. He will only be around when we really want Him there. God loves us even while we have pushed Him away, just like in the story of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-32), the father did not stop loving his son.
Romans 8:38-39 says, "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." No matter what has happened or what you are facing He loves you and is waiting for you. It is time for you to invite him back in.
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