Issue: I am homesick. I am away from home for the first time and I am miserable because of how much I miss home.
Insight: First of all, you need to make the most of life no matter where you are. When you start enjoying yourself you will find that when you think of home you will not be miserable but you will be happy you were able to talk to them. Once you allow yourself to feel negative feelings they tend to overwhelm you and you have a hard time enjoying even the time you have with your family in communication.
However, when you allow positive emotions to be prominent you will find that more of your experiences will result in positive emotions as well. You will still miss your family because you love them, it just will be easier for you to deal with when you are not overwhelmed with negative emotion as well.
Issue: My mom is disabled and I hated her for it. I even told her that. Since I have grown closer to Jesus I have seen her in a new light and I realize how much I love her. How do I repair the damage I have caused?
Insight: God has forgiven you. My question for you is have you forgiven yourself? You need to forgive yourself, in order to be effective in repairing things with your mom. She needs to know you are coming from a place of love and not guilt. Once you have forgiven yourself and allowed all of the pain to fade away, face your mom. Tell her the truth about how you felt, what changed and how you feel now. Ask her to forgive you and continue to treat her with love and respect and I am sure the damage to your relationship will be healed and restored.
Issue: A friend of mine made a commitment to me and then did not follow through with the commitment. How do I confront them and still maintain the friendship?
Insight: Friendship is not always easy, but the friendships worth keeping are the ones that can weather any storm.
When a friend makes a commitment, it is usually because they intend to keep it. If they have not kept it, there may be a good reason why they were not able to.
If you feel like it is a commitment that needs to be kept, then it may be a good idea to confront them. When you confront them, do so out of love not anger and you will find that the response will be much more positive. Also, try not to accuse, if you want answers as to why they did not follow through then ask questions.
Lastly, let them know that you want to maintain the friendship and what your expectations are in order for that to be accomplished.
Issue: I am a very independent person and I find it really hard to rely on God the way the Bible shows us too. How can I change that?
Insight: I continually struggle with that. I am also an independent person and I find that many times I try to do things on my own without God's help. The result is not pleasant. I am usually worn out, defeated, and worst of all I end up feeling guilty about not asking God to help me right from the start.
God is our strength and our shield. If we are in the midst of a battle for our lives and we toss our shield down we are leaving ourselves vulnerable to all of the attacks our enemy has coming our way, however if we keep hold of our shield and allow it to protect us, we will be able to push back the enemy and gain the ground of our lives back. God truly is our shield and he wants more than anything to protect us from the fiery darts of the enemy but it is our choice to hold onto the shield or put it down and fight on our own. The problem is many of us expect that we start the battle on our own and when we need it the shield will just leap into our hands, God does not work that way. Our free will is what keeps the shield on the ground until we choose to pick it up.
Remember, the enemy is always looking for a way to defeat us. He will wait for the moment that we put the shield down, because he knows he will be more successful if we are weak and vulnerable than if we are strong and defended. I am sure some of you are wondering what battle I am talking about and what enemy I am referring to. The enemy is Satan, and the battle is a spiritual one that rages on every day. As a Christian it is my desire to follow Christ and to live according to His purposes for my life. Satan is our enemy and he wants nothing more than to draw us away from God. The best way for you to start relying on God is by looking at your life and seeing which works better you doing everything on your own or with God's help. When you realize that on your own you end up wounded, weak and defeated; and you see that with God you are protected, strong and triumphant, you will then find the choice easier each time.
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