Issue: My best friend started dating the person I like, when my friend knew I liked this person. I don't want to tell my friend anything anymore and I feel betrayed. I don't think I will ever be able to trust my friend again.
Insight: My question to you is have you told your friend how you feel since this happened? Your best friend may think you stopped liking that person, or your friend might have thought it was alright if that person liked your friend but didn't like you in that way. You need to find out why your friend did it before you can decide if your friend has broken your trust or not.
If your friend has betrayed you then you need to decide if you want to continue the friendship or not. If you do, then you should probably forgive your friend and move on; however you may want to be cautious of what you share with your friend until the trust is rebuilt. If you decide not to continue the friendship, then I would suggest you still forgive your friend. Forgiveness is not letting your friend off the hook, it is setting you free from the pain your friend caused you.
If you have already expressed how you feel and your friend doesn't care that you were hurt by it, you may want to evaluate the friendship. Once again, you would need to decide if you want to continue this friendship or not. If you decide to keep the friend, you might want to distance yourself from them and find a 'best' friend you can trust. If you decide it is time to move on, you might want to let them know why you have decided not to be friends anymore. Either way, you should still forgive the person, which will enable you to move on from this situation in a healthy way. Always remember, there are consequences for our actions at any stage in our lives.
Issue: I am a Christian but there have been a lot of time when I feel alone. I know God is supposed to always be there but then why do I feel so alone?
Insight: First of all, I want to let you know that you are truly never alone, however there are times when we push God away and don't realize that we need to invite him back.
I was angry with God myself at one time. I buried it and year after year went past and I would pray and read the Bible but I still felt like God was distant from me. One day I was talking to someone and I expressed that I was angry with God. I traced it back to the source and asked for God to forgive me for pushing Him away and then invited Him back and I no longer have that feeling of distance. God is a gentleman who will not force Himself into your life. He will only be around when we really want Him there. God loves us even while we have pushed Him away, just like in the story of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-32), the father did not stop loving his son.
Romans 8:38-39 says, "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." No matter what has happened or what you are facing He loves you and is waiting for you. It is time for you to invite him back in.
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