Issue: Is it possible to still love Jesus and live a sinful lifestyle? Like promiscuity, homosexuality, adultery, etc.
Insight: I believe it is possible for them to love Jesus and still be living a sinful lifestyle. It would be an indicator of the depth of their love and commitment to Jesus though. The more you love Jesus, the more you try to be like him. Someone who is bound to habitual sin; has to come to a place where they love Jesus enough and are willing to trust Him enough, to allow Him to set them free in those areas. Many people compartmentalize their lives and allow God only into parts of their life, not into every area. Once again, it just portrays their level of commitment. However, be cautious about judging people based on their lifestyles, truly it is only Jesus who knows exactly the heart of these people and only He knows the exact depth of their love and commitment to Him. My challenge for you is if you know someone living a sinful lifestyle, but says they love Jesus, continue to pray that their relationship with Jesus would continue to grow and deepen. Let Jesus do the rest.
If God puts it in your heart to say something to them, ensure that you do so out of a place of love. Every time Jesus confronted someone it was done in love, not judgement.
Issue: I have been divorced and I am in a new relationship. Christians are telling me that I am committing adultery and so is he, so does God expect me to be alone for the rest of my life because I made a mistake?
Insight: I believe that God hates divorce because it tears apart the very fabric of the family entity that God created. Divorce hurts not only both people in the marriage but also any children that were conceived. God hates to see His children in pain and this is why he hates divorce.
This is only half of the picture though. The other half of the picture is God is loving, forgiving and merciful. When we make mistakes He is faithful to forgive us. If you have asked God to forgive you, I believe it is forgiven and you have a new slate, however keep in mind the consequences of these issues still exist.
In your new relationship if your children do not like the person you have chosen it could cause strife between you and your children; or if their children do not like you it may cause problems there as well. The same goes for friends and families of either person. These are the consequences of the choices we make.
God provides forgiveness and freedom from sin but the consequences remain. I would advise that when Scripture gives several warnings considering a particular topic, weigh the consequences carefully.
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