Issue: Why is it that when I finally get my life back on track, everything starts going wrong? I thought God would bless me for getting everything together.
Insight: Do you have health, food, clothing, shelter? Does the sun rise and set each day? These are God's blessings for us, sometimes we just take them for granted.
I also wanted to remind you that God has an enemy. This enemy is Satan and He will do everything he can to draw you back away from God. Do not allow any problems or set backs that you come across to draw you away from God. Instead run to God and ask Him to help you get through these difficulties. Ask other Christians you know to pray for your situation as well.
Issue: I have been divorced and I am in a new relationship. Christians are telling me that I am committing adultery and so is he, so does God expect me to be alone for the rest of my life because I made a mistake?
Insight: I believe that God hates divorce because it tears apart the very fabric of the family entity that God created. Divorce hurts not only both people in the marriage but also any children that were conceived. God hates to see His children in pain and this is why he hates divorce.
This is only half of the picture though. The other half of the picture is God is loving, forgiving and merciful. When we make mistakes He is faithful to forgive us. If you have asked God to forgive you, I believe it is forgiven and you have a new slate, however keep in mind the consequences of these issues still exist.
In your new relationship if your children do not like the person you have chosen it could cause strife between you and your children; or if their children do not like you it may cause problems there as well. The same goes for friends and families of either person. These are the consequences of the choices we make.
God provides forgiveness and freedom from sin but the consequences remain. I would advise that when Scripture gives several warnings considering a particular topic, weigh the consequences carefully.
Issue: I made a big mistake and now nobody seems to be able to see past my mistake; when they look at me that is all that they see. I feel like I have lost my identity due to my bad choice.
Insight: Everyone on the planet makes mistakes (Romans 3:23 - for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,). Some just make them in secret and some make them in public. For those whose mistakes are made public, people do tend to hold it against them. It is unfortunate that not everyone's mistakes were made public.
It reminds me the story in John 8:1-11, Jesus was teaching the people on the Mount of Olives and the religious people brought forward a woman caught in adultery. They said to Jesus that the law said that anyone caught in adultery should be stoned. Jesus replied saying that if anyone was without sin they could cast the first stone. One by one they all dropped their stones and walked away. If everyone looked at people's mistakes the same way, I am sure they would act differently toward you.
God created you, therefore it is in Him that you gain your identity. God created us in His image and he called us good (Genesis 1:27-31). We are good people who make bad choices. This is who God created us to be. This is who we are. Once you understand that it changes even your own self image. Society wants us to believe if we make bad choices we are bad people, but God, our Creator, says we are good. Once we grasp onto this concept our lives seem more managable because we no longer need to change who we are, we just need to change our choices.
I strive to help others by being a safe place for others to ask questions and pose issues they face.