Issue: There are times in my life when I feel alone. I know I am not, however even those I felt I could lean on haven't been there for me. How do I deal with it?
Insight: There have been times in my life I have felt this way, some even recently. There are days when we feel like the whole world rises against us and we are left to stand alone. When this has happened to me, I have gone to God, He is always there for us no matter what we face. The other thing I do is I talk to those who I felt alienated me in those times and explain how I felt. Most of the time I find that the other person either doesn't know their actions impacted me that way or the person feels guilt over what happened. Either way by talking it out not only do you find out what happened on their end but you have the chance to know you are not actually alone. This is a powerful feeling and the most important thing I can share with you is never let this feeling of being alone overwhelm you. When it starts overwhelming someone, that person tends to isolate themselves to protect themselves from it happening again, which only creates more loneliness; this time created by themselves. Be pro-active whenever these types of emotions come over you, it could save you sinking into a pit of loneliness and depression.
Issue: I am a Christian but there have been a lot of time when I feel alone. I know God is supposed to always be there but then why do I feel so alone?
Insight: First of all, I want to let you know that you are truly never alone, however there are times when we push God away and don't realize that we need to invite him back.
I was angry with God myself at one time. I buried it and year after year went past and I would pray and read the Bible but I still felt like God was distant from me. One day I was talking to someone and I expressed that I was angry with God. I traced it back to the source and asked for God to forgive me for pushing Him away and then invited Him back and I no longer have that feeling of distance. God is a gentleman who will not force Himself into your life. He will only be around when we really want Him there. God loves us even while we have pushed Him away, just like in the story of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-32), the father did not stop loving his son.
Romans 8:38-39 says, "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." No matter what has happened or what you are facing He loves you and is waiting for you. It is time for you to invite him back in.
I strive to help others by being a safe place for others to ask questions and pose issues they face.